….ok so the title is a little misleading as we didn’t really get any help from Appsense.  Simon was faithfully promised by his boss that he had his back, maybe to piss up it and tell him it was raining………

Anyway I can’t be too harsh as they have amended his commission plan to help with our cash flow but that is all.  I know I should be happy that they have changed that but it was part of Simons salary he was entitled to so basically I am NOT happy.  The logical side to  me says what did I really expect.  I really didn’t expect much  I know Appsense are growing and can’t be seen to be making exceptions for Simon.  The truth is though that I feel really aggrieved at the way he has been treat this year and saw this as an opportunity for them to put things right.  I am not naive and I never expected them to turn round to us and say here is the $6500 you have spent on therapy and we will give you a salary increase to cover Elliots therapy each month.  Don’t get me wrong that would have been nice but I am a realist.  If they had looked into incorporating PDD in the current policy that would have been great.  If they had said to him look you probably wouldn’t get group therapy paid for in the UK but would definitely get OT & SLT, therefore we will give you some money towards it that would have been great.  Faith restored and I would happily settle back into living out here and living out the remainder of our contract and possibly staying longer.  The fact is they didn’t and I am really fed up.  Again it isn’t about the money it really isn’t, it is the principal.  Why should we be out here for the benefit of Appsense and be out of pocket every month, relying on our savings to pay for something that would be covered in the UK. 

Anyway ranting is not getting me anywhere and if wasn’t for the fact the therapy programme we have Elliot enrolled is doing him so much good I would have our bags pakced and we would be on the next flight home.

PS. Dear Aetna Broker have Appsense opted out of Mental health coverage???????  I await your response with baited breath as I may have another trick up my sleeve………….TBC

Ok so the last post got taken over with a rant about medical insurance which could go on and on but at the sake of boring myself and anyone else I think it is really important to focus on what our money is getting for us. 

This is the last week of intensive session as there are only 3 more of the TSSV sessions left.  The PTS sessions continue for another few weeks and the individual sessions for SLT & OT continue for as long as we keep paying for them ;o) 

OK so Elliot is always going to be  a shy conservative boy that hangs back and assess situations more than other children but he is learning to find his voice and that it is ok to have opinions.  When we started this journey with Elliot, all we hoped for was that we could help equip him and give him the tools to cope with being a quite person and to understand that it is ok to be that way.  Although all of this is way too much information to impart on a four year old the therapy sessions are really improving his confidence in talking to adults, speaking up, trying to correlate more coherent sentences and trying to be heard.  He still stumbles with his peers but is showing a slow and steady improvement.  Just this week I have managed to get him out of the house without as many prompts and even without as many security devices i.e half the toys from his bedroom.  He is doing so much better with change also.  Miss Christie was not available for his Friday session and he saw Miss Maria instead and he totally took it in his stride. 

Yay for Elliot lets hope the improvements in leaps and bounds carry on……

This week is the final full week of intensive therapy.  I can’t believe how quickly it is going and how the costs are mounting, which reminds me we eventually heard back from the broker to say the we can get a big fat ZERO back from them.  It is a little disappointing that it took him over a week to confirm what we had asked him.  Anyway no point bitching too much or is there ;o)……….I guess the real frustration here is that health care is completely free in the UK and that a lot not all of Elliots treatment would be covered for free in the UK.  I think it is safe to say that it would be unlikely to find as many of the group therapy type sessions that Elliot has in the UK so we had almost decided that we were not going to see the money back for that.  But to be told we can’t claim back anything is soooooo wrong. 

The next steps I guess are for Simon to speak to his company and see what they can do to help.  This kind of puts us all in a very awkward position as we don’t expect any special treatment but do expect to have the same level of health care as would have been provided in the UK.  This does not appear to be the case right now.  The issue is what can we realistically expect his company to do.  We are in the less than favourable position now of Elliot already having a diagnosis which would make getting him insured difficult as it is a pre existing condition.  As it is costing us nearly $3000 a month at the moment we are relying heavily on our savings to live on.  Granted this is not indefinite but once Elliot goes back to School we will be spending $2000 a month for therapy and school fees.  Ok so it is our choice to put him in the school he is going to, however the teaching style here best suits someone with Elliots needs.  I guess from our point of view all we can do is flag how much it is costing us to be out here, ask to change his commission plan so we are less out of pocket every month and see what extra help/support the company will offer if any. I really am not holding my breath at the risk of airing our dirty laundry in public Appsense are not the company they once were, they really have not shown Simon the respect or courtesy that an employee that has been with the company as long deserves. Hey that’s just my humble biased opinion but I am sure many would agree with me.

I just want to point out here that this really isn’t about the money it is the principle.